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Originally Posted by
bowspearer
Racism and sexism get used because they're nasty and are likely to cut deeply without trying too hard, but they're simply tools for the intent.
The intent here is to be as nasty as possible to shut people down.
The racism and sexism are horrible vehicles, but let's be clear, they are just that vehicles for the underlying intent. They're not being used because of a person's sex or a person's race; they're being used because someone has been othered by an ideological camp and deemed so virulent and such a threat that it justifies them being taken down by any means necessary.
Sorry, but I can't go past this. That's absurd.
If you're using someone's sex or race as a tool to be nasty to them, that makes you a sexist, or a racist, full stop.
(That also goes for mental health too, for the record)
'It wasn't meant pejoratively, it was just something said to get a rise and it doesn't mean that the person saying it actually hates X group' is the piss poorest of excuses for that kind of behaviour. Essentially you're suggesting that as long as you marry abusing some disadvantaged group to a barely coherent point or cause of some type you get a free pass.
(This also applies to the abuse you took for your mental health too, for the record, and I'm sorry that happened to you)