It's work huh? :oQuote:
Originally Posted by 1AZRAEL1
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It's work huh? :oQuote:
Originally Posted by 1AZRAEL1
Yea partly :pQuote:
Originally Posted by Hursticon
That, and I gotta go to the docs tomorrow, because I think I have stomach ulcers :(
I thought so, but how on earth have you acquired stomach ulcers? :confused:Quote:
Originally Posted by 1AZRAEL1
Apart from the odd grog, you don't put anything dodgy near your gut, by that I mean drugs and foreign chemicals. ;)
It's not a hereditary thing is it? :o
Bad diet. Too much acidic foods and not enough milk I guess. I harldy drink, and when I do, I end up with heartburn. Or I thought it was heartburn. I had 2 beers the other night at my parents and felt like heartburn.Quote:
Originally Posted by Hursticon
That's pretty much me down to a T. To the doctors I go tomorrow.Quote:
The major symptom of an ulcer is a burning or gnawing feeling in the stomach area that lasts between 30 minutes and 3 hours. This pain is often interpreted as heartburn, indigestion or hunger. The pain usually occurs in the upper abdomen, but sometimes it may occur below the breastbone. In some individuals the pain occurs immediately after eating. In other individuals, the pain may not occur until hours after eating. The pain frequently awakens the person at night. Weeks of pain may be followed by weeks of not having pain.
good luck at the doctor.Quote:
Originally Posted by 1AZRAEL1
Not looking forward to it...
hu how do u know you have stomach ulcers?:confused:
Bit my tongue:o
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Originally Posted by 1AZRAEL1
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Originally Posted by UltraMarginal
Indeed UM, good luck with it tomorrow 1AZRAEL1 - I hope it's just a dodgy stomach bug. ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by 1AZRAEL1
Well done. :pQuote:
Originally Posted by Autocon
Unlikely, otherwise it's one mean bug.Quote:
Originally Posted by Hursticon
One of those "I'm showing all the symptoms of ulcers" kinda thing. I could be wrong, but it would explain alot.Quote:
Originally Posted by Autocon
So, my ex wants me to stay her best friend.
This is hard on me, because she doesn't have anybody at the moment. Nobody wants to be around her, and here I am... Being myself, I can't help but care and as such I have re-fallen for her, and as such am expecting something... Something I have been told wont be given to anybody until the end of the year at least.
I need to get away, I want to be her friend but it hurts me so much because of what she has put me through and is doing right now (luckily it is only PG rated... but I don't know how long that will keep up... and then the real pain starts)
Not even that guy wants anything to do with her, he's a jackass.
Then here I am, being to caring a person to let any call go unheard.
What do I do? I've tried to tell her that I can't be her friend because of what happened. She told me that all she needs now is me as a friend because she has nobody else.
Anyway, I stayed over last night and took her out to dinner tonight. I feel that I am weak and need to move on, but at the same time I just can't...
cut ties mate
its not worth putting yourself through the trouble again
she was the one who stuffed up, now she has to live with her own mistakes, its not up to you to make it all better now
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Originally Posted by blackie
It is also the best for you. If she wants to stay friends then let the dust settle, give it 6 months and then maybe possible consider the idea of being friends again.
That way you can let go of everything. Let your feelings for her go, and possibly even meet someone else.
Makes it a bit less complicated.
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Originally Posted by KillinSpoon
when you look back at this point in your life on hindsight, you will realise that you were not thinking clear. You'd also realise that getting back with her or being near her now so soon after that event is (normally) not a good idea. BUT, the above or what we said above is very unlikely to cut through the haze that you are in now.... :(
all the best, mate!
I agree with what others have said KillinSpoon, you need to make a break from her. She says she needs you to support her, but quite frankly you are - as they say in Star Trek - emotionally compromised and currently unfit tocommandbe her friend.
Since this is your first break up, be aware that "getting over" a former lover does NOT mean you have to forget about her completely or stop having any fond feelings for her. However what's happening to you now is that you experienced loss (loss of your relationship and girlfriend) and are therefore going through grief. Click here to read about the commonly accepted 5 stages of grief. Once you have reached Stage 5 (Acceptance), then you might consider being friends with your ex-girlfriend... but absolutely not before then. Cos then it'd be like Spock returning to the bridge of the Enterprise when he's still feeling p!ssed off about the loss of his mother and Vulcan and possibly still wanting to crush Kirk with his bare hands. Die... Autobot! *ahem*
Look, we're not professionals here in terms of helping you with your mental health issues -- so really, see your doctor. S/he will be able to offer your professional and practical advice and even refer you to a specialist (e.g. therapist) to help you manage your loss. There's no shame in seeing a doctor about mental health issues - after all, if you had a physical injury you'd see a doctor, right? At the moment you are mentally injured - your heart is broken, dude! If your heart was broken in a physical manner, you'd go see a doctor and possibly get a referral to a cardiologist. Your emotional heart is now broken... so why not see a doctor and maybe get a referral to a therapist? Particularly if they bulk bill through Medicare. :)
In the meantime, here are some links which may help you:
http://www.lifeline.org.au (Phone: 13 11 14)
http://www.beyondblue.org.au
http://au.reachout.com
And you can forward those details to your ex-girlfriend if she feels that she has nobody else to talk to. Because you're probably not in a position to be able to help her anyway. Have you done first aid? If so then you know that the first rule is "Danger" -- before attempting to assist or rescue someone, you have to assess the danger to yourself. Otherwise there will be two casualties instead of one. If there is danger to yourself then you do not proceed with rendering assistance/rescue. Right now I suspect that if you tried to be friends with her, then you are exposing yourself to danger of being even more BADLY hurt - which would then possibly make it even more difficult to heal from.
Good luck
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"Doctor, I am emotionally compromised and no longer fit for command, please note the time and date in the ship's log."
I know that. She has nobody around because of what she has done. She needs to learn the repercussions of her mistakes. Best that you move on and don't contact her for a long time. Time will heal, I lost contact with my exs for a while, and was better for it. I still don't talk tho em, even though my first ex added me on facebook a long time ago. Was more to see how she was doing after 6 years of no contact. And my last gf I saw at a concert not long after we broke up and I was just in a new relationship with my now fiance. Past feelings nearly clouded my judgement, but thought the better of it. Now I am engaged, own a house, and couldn't be more happier.
Trust me though, you will be much better off not contacting her for a long while, it will help you out in the long run.
What they said.
She must surely have a best girlfriend or some family to go to. Let them pick up her pieces. If you get back together now, how long will it be before she breaks your heart again.
Take some time off, like everyone else said. if after 6 months, you try being friends and it grows into a closer relationship again, there is much less chance she'll cheat on you again because of the outcome of the first event.
you need to take time apart to help each of you heal individually.
Like Gok said though, none of us are professionals in this field, that I'm aware of, if you don't want to share more with your close friends and family, then go see your GP or contact the links he gave you.
Of course, you need to follow your heart, but sometimes even the best thing for healing a heart is to take time apart. you're obviously a Good person, and perhaps now she is starting to realise what she just broke.
all the best
Well Killingspoon, I think you can gather what our collective opinions and advice is, the ball is in your court dude and I know that it is a horribly hard decision that stands before you dude. :o
Whatever decision you go with man, we'll stand behind you but just make sure you give it some long and hard thought. ;)
*Edit: Just re-reading UltraMarginal's post reminded me of something my Mother always told me, "Follow your Heart, but lead with your Head". :cool:
My own 2 cents?: As a person who has always been 'The nice guy' too - Walk away mate, save yourself from prolonged anguish because from my experience the nice guy really does always finish last. :( <- Hence why I really detest that saying. :mad:
Besides, if the 'other guy' doesn't want to be near her either, that actually speaks volumes about her. ;)
KillinSpoon - don't let your ex be the one in control. If she truly regrets what she's done and wants to get back together with you, consider that. If she just wants to be friends, don't, and get on with your life without her. Because if you keep letting her get what she wants then it makes you the one without power in the relationship, which will just continue while she keeps stomping on your heart.
People keep saying "there's plenty more fish in the sea", and you need to appreciate what that means. When you go fishing, you don't try to catch a specific fish, you just stick your line in the sea and try to catch one. If you focus on and obsess about a specific fish (as nice guys do) you'll just end up mad like Captain Ahab.
(Yes, I know a whale is not a fish.)
I was SO going to hit you up on that. :p:DQuote:
Originally Posted by Sky Shadow
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Originally Posted by Hursticon
(And, for people like Goktimus who only speak Transformers, when I say "Captain Ahab", I mean "Longtooth in Transformers US #64 or TFUK #286-289". ;))
Yet they both can end up as sushi. :p :pQuote:
Originally Posted by Sky Shadow
In the last week or so I have been inexplicably feeling depressed. It's been affecting me at work as I am having trouble concentrating and on a few occasions I have said some dumb things to colleagues during social conversations although nothing of consequence. What is worrying me is that I have only recently started this position and don't want to make the wrong impression.
I suspect that I am having some sort of chemical imbalance as I have absolutely no reason to feel depressed, my life is going great. I started to feel depressed after I stopped taking some stomach pills which a doctor prescribed. I took them for about a week but I begun developing some nasty side effects like skin rashes, nightmares and 'other' problems but my stomach had no improvement so I stopped taking them. Shortly after that, I begun to feel depressed, it took me a couple of weeks to work it out, just a feeling of severe dimness and mental inadequacy with a 'life is wrong' feeling.
I hope that it goes away soon as I am currently doing training and had trouble concentrating in one of the tasks which was kind of embarrassing as it was very simple. I had to be figuratively slapped to be able to concentrate enough to do it.
seasonal affective disorder?
Maybe, depends if there is a pattern of this every year which I cannot recall.Quote:
Originally Posted by blackie
That sucks Kup. It's always hard trying to learn things when you've got a monkey on your back. Hope you feel better soon
that's odd, I know it's almost a cliche but try having some yogurt daily, it apparently is good for sorting out your tummy. make sure you're eating well and sleeping well, open a new transformer and you'll be fine:DQuote:
Originally Posted by kup
that's all I got.
I'm a little concerned as to what those Tablets were that your Doctor prescribed? :confused:Quote:
Originally Posted by kup
Have you seen your Doctor since stopping the medication dude? - Depending on the chemical composition of the medication, it may have certain side effects that should've been explained to you, on top of which, you may require additional medication whilst on it to balance things out and/or additional medication in order to ween and/or cope with coming off of it. :o
One Should Never simply cease taking a prescribed medication unless the physician that prescribed it states that it is safe to do so!
I highly recommend you see your Doctor Kup as soon as you possibly can to get on top of this before it possibly gets any worse, as the last thing you would want mate is for further discomfort to be self inflicted. :(
Sounds like you're getting bored with your life, even if you are having a great life. But even a great life with all uppers gets boring. Try challenging yourself to a project, any project that demands much of your attention and your devotion - I'm doing so now and it's kept me away from those moments of wondering what the hell is the point of it all - whatever the project is though, it has to be something you enjoy doing. I'm mapmaking now for a internet gaming cafe (they approve) and I enjoy it very much, though at times it is a b*tch, and after spending ~60hrs on it last week, I'm still nowhere near done - but I'm determined on finishing it - and in between my breaks I go exercise, challenge myself at the gym and challenge my own diet by eating less junk food and more healthy foods. Naturally I feel better, and I was in a rut like you only a few months ago and wanted to quit but am now picking up the pieces, redeeming myself eventually.Quote:
Originally Posted by kup
Redemption won't be easy though, it'll be hard - and they'll be sacrifices. But know this, you're on a forum where most of us, maybe even all are very supportive and caring for one another - and we got your back.
I hope you get better! :D
Thanks for your advise and well wishes but I don't think this applies in my case. In the last month I have been through a huge change in my daily routine and been more mentally and physically challenged than usual both professionally and recreationally and I have most certainly been occupied with a lot of things, including much more active social activities than normal. That is why it felt so weird as I couldn't identify the 'standard' factors that could be causing it - Although I am the type who prefers solitude as the norm with a reserved social life but that's more my personality. I personally feel that it's due to the medication or maybe Blackie is correct and it's the seasonal change affecting my mood and I am only noticing it now due to me being more aware of it due to current peripheral factors.Quote:
Originally Posted by SkyWarp91
Anyways, I felt a lot better today even if I am not yet back to normal.
- Hursticon, thanks for your concern, I appreciate that but they are just stomach pills for a bad tummy nothing critical like Epilim or some other drug which has serious side effects if you stop taking them. My stomach has actually begun to improve and as of today I didn't have any problems.
BTW, I did some research on those pills and it is plagued with side effects, several of them actually consistent to what I experienced with them. The doctor never mentioned any side effects at all :rolleyes:
Yeah sounds like it's the meds, Kup. Until very recently I was taking Endep, a type of SSRI for stomach pain & nausea suffered after a proctocolectomy I had a few years back. Despite being an anti-depressant, one of Endep's side effects was to calm the stomach, which admittedly it did quite well. Came off it three weeks though and my mood has sky rocketed, I feel much more positive and don't fall into the blues any more. :) Also helps that the nausea and stomach pain are not too bad either!
Let us know how you go Kup, all the best.
This is what we want to see dude, you on the mend - Glad to hear things are on the way up. ;):)Quote:
Originally Posted by kup
That's fair enough dude if they're just stomach pills, but I'm of the opinion that any foreign introduced chemical should be understood as best as one can and a degree of caution should also be employed. ;)Quote:
Hursticon, thanks for your concern, I appreciate that but they are just stomach pills for a bad tummy nothing critical like Epilim or some other drug which has serious side effects if you stop taking them. My stomach has actually begun to improve and as of today I didn't have any problems.
BTW, I did some research on those pills and it is plagued with side effects, several of them actually consistent to what I experienced with them. The doctor never mentioned any side effects at all :rolleyes:
I myself try to avoid taking simple cough and flu medicine to the best of my ability, I like to exercise my immune system as best I can before I have to resort to modern medicine. :o
I find that really crap that your Doctor didn't divulge to you the possible side effects of the medication, I'd bring it up with him dude and maybe even consider a new Doctor.
Ah, interesting - My Mother is prescribed Endep for pain relief of the condition she now has due to a work related injury at Woolworths, Dark Disk Syndrome - which essentially means that one of the disks between her vertebrae in her lower spine is quite literally missing. :(Quote:
Originally Posted by Doubledealer
She too finds that it causes her mood to plummet, often causing her to not want to speak to anyone and then by contrast when she comes off of it she is an absolute nutcase. :confused:
I was bidding on a game on ebay. $55 and with 2 min left on the clock I was winning bidder. I go look at another page and come back 3 min later and my max bid ($75) was out bid. No one seemed interested in the auction in the week leading up to it. Man, I haven't won anything on ebay for ages now.
In other news, I have some nice big bruises as I took a tumble at work, slipping on a wet floor. Into ....
a bin, of all things:D
Hurt like hell at the time, whacked my ribs and neck on the rim of the bin as my arm went inside it. Luckily it was plastic and empty at the time, but man it made me swear.
So I get home and the wife is all like "Why'd you slip over? Silly man!":rolleyes:
Someone remind me why I got married please?:D;)
Glutton for punishment? :pQuote:
Originally Posted by Tetsuwan Convoy
Fiddling around with RtS Wreck-Gar last night and his handlebars snapped off. After spending 8 hours playing supervisor at the kids interschool hockey tournament, missing uni then going to work for another 7 hours this was the last thing I needed.
Now I have to try to hunt down another one, just when they've all disappeared from stores.
I don't mean to be an a******* dude, but that made me laugh a bit as you don't often hear about something like that happening and the mental picture didn't help either. :p:DQuote:
Originally Posted by Tetsuwan Convoy
Sorry to hear you were hurt though, as for the missus? - personification of the phrase: "Adding insult to injury". :o
Oh man, that sucks dude - I'm sorry to hear and of all times for it to occur too when "The Land Of The Shelf-Warmers" is either doing nothing with their current stock or is currently removing all of it for a new wave of shelf-warmers. :rolleyes::(Quote:
Originally Posted by LordCyrusOmega
Put the word out in the Bumblebee - Toy Scout sub-forum dude, I'm sure someone will be able to help. :o
Compared to KillingSpoon's problems at the moment this is probably pretty ridiculous but...
After re-arranging all of my collection over the past day and some, I've found my Beast Wars figures to literally be encrusted and caked in dust as they've pretty much remained untouched on their shelf for about 5 to 6 years and I feel, silly-ly?, sad for them and disappointed in myself for letting some of my favourite possessions get to such a state. :(
Has anyone else had a similar experience or am I alone in my stupor? :o
Yeah sure you fell into a bin :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Tetsuwan Convoy
Got home not long ago.
The most dreaded thing happened.... my 4 year old niece has been in my room and a few of my tfs were played with and thrashed... I think my mum who was babysitting must have been occupied with something else..:mad:
Now my united wreckgar/hasbro wreckgar has been tampered with, henkei bumblebee, henkei wheelie. Lucky my Fansproject stuff was not touched.
Now, i love my niece alot... and I have never had to put my foot down regarding my tfs (she knows not to touch)...what pisses me off the most is the time has passed... got to wait till the next time when I see her to put a word in...but by then, would've forgotten it already.
So far, nothing I can tell is damaged... just the mere violation of my collection!!! :mad:
Yeh, no worries, it makes me laugh looking back at it, but then I have to stop, as my ribs start hurting.:rolleyes: Nothing broken though, so all is good.Quote:
Originally Posted by Hursticon
At work, trying to have lunch and thought I would watch some youtube to while away the 20 odd min I managed to fit in. Well thanks to works internet connection, I have managed to watch ZIP! I feel like I am trying to use youtube on dialup again!
When I go back once a year or so to my parents place in Victoria, there I find my old G1 stuff still on the shelf, collecting more and more dust and some getting pretty sun-damaged. now when I go home I manage to find time to clean a couple and put them out of the way of the dust and sun.Quote:
Originally Posted by Hursticon
I clean with a soft brush and a hand vacuum nearby to pick up all the dust.