Quote Originally Posted by heroic_decepticon
I mean ladies (or guys for that matter) can get picky about a whole of bunch of things. Budgeting so that we don't spend beyond our means may just be one issue. There could also be issues like (1) us spending more time on TFs (either through playing, toy hunting, eBaying, forums, etc) than with our partners; (2) us preferring a TF related activity than say something more 'partner' orientated like a walk in the park or a picnic; or (3) etc.

I think another major issue is that hobbies tend to take one's attention away from one's partner and if it adds to an unreasonable amount, it becomes unacceptable (to them). And I mean attention not just time- because you can be spending time with a person and yet have your attention focused on Transformers or talking only about Transformers. That in itself is also 'direct and detrimental' notwithstanding the budgeting and money spent issue.
Absolutely - I totally agree with that. This all goes back to previous discussions we've had about when does a hardcore hobby become an unhealthy obsession, and IMHO it's when you become so obsessed and immersed in your hobby that you sacrifice other elements of your life - in effect, you have a minimal (or non-existent) social-life, then that's when it becomes emotionally unhealthy.

Transformers is absolutely an obsession for me - no doubt's there... but at the same time I do like to maintain a social life with friends and with my spouse. All my friends know that I'm obsessed with Transformers and they're cool with it. (^_^)

Quote Originally Posted by Hereticpoo
Its a young Relationship, You're given an absolute Ultimatum, There's no compromise, you must change, it doesn't even have to be TF's, its something you love. A or B?
If it's not a very serious relationship and you're not that committed to the other person... then bugger 'em! Transformers all the way!

Disclaimer: I am not a qualified relationships counsellor.