My collecting predates my dating years, and always came first! It was no secret and she just had to live with it or move on. Tried changing for girls once and just felt like I betrayed myself. Some of you have been in my "vault" with the collection, and I have programmed her fingerprint into the lock, so the level of trust and acceptance is pretty high now. I'm very lucky I found someone who accepts me the way I am.

Having said that, it is a constant battle to convince her that spending this amount of money on toys is okay. I usually roll out the alternatives: alcohol, drugs, (other) women, etc. We stay on top of our bills and lead a fairly comfortable life so there is little for her to complain about. I also zip it when she comes home with the 150th bag or pair of shoes...