Eh I wanted to be one of those parents who kept their kids 'device-free' but I realised my son was learning a lot more from youtube videos than I could teach him myself. By enforcing such a policy the only thing that would benefit is my ego.

He really likes watching videos and playing educational games but he isn't addicted and/or reliant on it to stay settled and always prefers doing an activity with a parent instead. It will be a fine line to walk to ensure it stays this way as he grows up.

I find the whole, "and then I caught my toddler watching something obscene of youtube so you can't just leave them with the device" a bit hard to believe. The suggestion algorithms are so focused that your child only has a network of 50 'suggested' videos to cycle through. I actually have to actively 'seed' new videos into my account from time to time so that he gets exposed to more advanced stuff.

My biggest concern with screen time is damage to his eyesight. I always try to ensure the room is well lit while he watches and that he doesn't hold the device to close to his face but ultimately young children do not have the self discipline to rest their eyes.