I need to vent!

[Ode to a Grasshopper]

Attached people think this sort of platitude will make single people feel happy. It does not.

The thing is, it's not meant to make you happy, it's just what works in my/our experience. Sure, we could say something like 'Don't worry, I'm sure your perfect hunk is just around the corner waiting for you', but it'd be BS and dishonest, and wouldn't actually help.
As someone who's sorta known you for a while via the board/Facebook and would like to see you find yourself a guy, you're shooting yourself in the foot by placing so much of your quest for happiness on your longed-for love relationships - I know 'cos I used to do it myself, and as a result didn't get the girls. Eventually after a whole lot of heartbreak and 'just friends' BS I decided I was gonna try and be happy on my own - or at least just live for myself and never ever be 'just friends' with women I was sexually attracted to - and if I found a girlfriend then it'd be a bonus rather than a necessity, and then surprise surprise, I started getting the girls - and damn awesome girls at that. My favourite quote - well, one of them - so far has been "Wow, you're an arsehole. When I'm rich we should get married" from a law student I'd been chatting politics with.
In being so 'I need to find a boyfriend'-obsessive you make yourself come across as needy, clingy and dependent, and unless they have a major Messiah complex that puts potential partners off. Just take a gay cruise or something, have a whole heap of meaningless no-strings-attached sex, try to lead a well-rounded life pursuing your interests, maintain an active social life, stop looking so hard and let the girls/guys come to you. If you put yourself out there and are confident and happy, or at least content, within yourself, people find that attractive and you get the guys/girls.

I'd say I'm sorry if this is kinda harsh, but I'm not 'cos it's the truth and obsessing/angsting over your singleness won't help.

[Towers_Spy]

^^This totally.
In my experience, girls can tell what a guy's agenda is in about 10 seconds. If you go around thinking 'need a girlfriend, so horny, please be attracted to me' they'll know, and be instantly scared off. No girl wants to talk to a guy when she can tell that all he's thinking about is getting her bra off. Seriously. Be happy in you, because how could anyone like you if you can't like yourself? If you are trying to find a nice person to share your life, treat people how you'd like to be treated, and make friends instead of putting so much pressure on 'getting' the person/intimacy. You might have to go through some 'just friends' relationships, but its a hella lot better than nothing IMO

[SharkyMcShark]

Yeah already Women's Weekly, calm down.

[kup]

chill man. they come in droves the moment you exhibit that you have no interest in them.

I disagree. I have no interest and they don't come in droves.

[SharkyMcShark]

kup knows what I'm talking about

[kup]

kup knows what I'm talking about

I do however dress like a bum and drive an old car so they could be under the impression that I am just an unemployed schmuck

[SamLoi888]

I disagree. I have no interest and they don't come in droves.

It's all about the pheromones.

[SGB]

Yeah already Women's Weekly, calm down.

LOL!

[Towers_Spy]

Yeah already Women's Weekly, calm down.

and you're single because....

[LordCyrusOmega]

Yes the universe sucks but only if you try to force it. I spent a long time trying to 'get what i want' but in the end you just have let go.
You'll either get the girl/guy or you won't, it's not up to us. Yes you have to put effort in sometimes but the opposite is just as true.

Just be happy in yourself. You're not actually lacking anything even if you feel that way. This was the same philosophy i had when i was single.