Simple question. Hard answer.

[Ode to a Grasshopper]

As a side note, how old are you and what are your experience and qualifications?

[MV75]

As a side note, how old are you and what are your experience and qualifications?

Finally. Someone is on the right track. We need to get this guy into a job.

Don't sell your toys, money comes and goes.

I think the job on itself is the only main thing the old man has an issue with, he's using everything else as (how he sees it), a motivator to "get off your slack arse" and get a job. Don't take the additional flak seriously and let it make you feel worthless, I've been there too many times myself, and now I'm earning, those things that used to put me into the "I'm a useless fat tunt" mood don't affect me at all now. Earning an income is the main point.

Because when you have that happening, you will then have the means to move if you want, AND keep your swag. Plus when you're actually earning and paying board/rent to them then, you'll have much more awesome power and can tell them to go Fvk themselves if they want to throw crap at you.

Also it's time to throw it back at the old man, what's his vices? Like to smoke and drink? Tell him he's a pathetic drunk who's literally pissing his money away. And remember, those that hang shit on you usually don't have any hobby themselves and are just pathetic consumer whores following the latest souless trends.

[Bartrim]

Hang in there TB. A man of your skills will get a job sooner or later.

I was in a similar situation to yours many a moon ago. I lived at home and my old man was and still is a hard case. To make matters worse I worked for him too. He was constantly on my case, nothing I could do would please him. It came to a head one afternoon and the end result was me getting kicked out of home. Thankfully I had my grandmother to fall back on. But ultimately that eventful day lead me to finally forging my own identity. I'm now a business owner, I'm married and a father. I'm friends with my dad again but there are times when my family and I are having dinner over there and dad will start to hang some serious crap on me. I just pack up my wife and kid and leave and dad gets the idea.

Like I said mate hang in there. I know times are tough but things will get better. IF you do need someone to talk too, feel free to PM me for personal details and I'll be more then happy to help you through these tough times

[Sam]

If you have been looking for work and not finding it, then it's not really your fault, and he shouldn't call you "pathetic".

Back when I was out of work (some years ago), there was a couple of months when I couldn't be bothered to look for work, and even then my dad didn't call me pathetic.

I think parents are supposed to give their kids support - calling them "pathetic" doesn't quite fit the bill. Has your dad given you any ideas about how to look for work or where to look? That would seem more constructive to me.

Regarding your collection, I think that's a separate issue. If in his eyes "not having a job or working" is the problem, why is he lumping that issue with your collection? To me, these two matters are distinct.

I would suggest holding onto your collection, because even if you sell it off and contribute the money to the home, what's to say that you won't still be criticised for not having a job?

If you haven't started looking for work, just do it, even if it feels boring (I know I felt that way about looking for work during the dot com bust back in 2002 - especially when you keep looking and no one wants you, it can make a person feel hopeless). At least this way you will remove justification from his criticisms.

[shokwave2]

Only sell your collection if it comes between you and your girlfriend. It's not worth breaking up over. They are only toys after all.

If you're planning on moving out of home soon, i'd pack up the collection and move it somewhere safe until you get your own place. I'd put the collecting on hold for a while and as willowcrew said, keep the essentials and sell the leftovers. You can always pick up the more recent TF's in the near future.

If you really love your collection, keep it. Just put it aside for now and get a job to get you out of home and get you some future collecting money.

[kup]

Only sell your collection if it comes between you and your girlfriend. It's not worth breaking up over. They are only toys after all.

From my viewpoint, if a girl forces you to sell your collection, she is not worth it. She is supposed to like you for who you are not what she wants you to be.

[Fungal Infection]

From my viewpoint, if a girl forces you to sell your collection, she is not worth it. She is supposed to like you for who you are not what she wants you to be.

I don't see it as such a black and white answer. If she is forcing you to sell because you are being irresponsible with your money and neglecting your duties such as rent, mortgage, rego or any other number of issues then she has every right to tell you to sell your collection. Its only when she asks you to sell when no other factors are in play such as "you are too old for this", then it becomes an issue. Girlfriends and spouses sometimes are more helpful than you think when it comes to priorities, you cant assume everytime they ask you to sell your stuff, means they are bad for you. It just comes down to how clear they make their intentions to you and how you see them.

[Vector Sigma 13]

Only sell your collection if it comes between you and your girlfriend. It's not worth breaking up over. They are only toys after all.

If you're planning on moving out of home soon, i'd pack up the collection and move it somewhere safe until you get your own place. I'd put the collecting on hold for a while and as willowcrew said, keep the essentials and sell the leftovers. You can always pick up the more recent TF's in the near future.

If you really love your collection, keep it. Just put it aside for now and get a job to get you out of home and get you some future collecting money.

This is pretty much what im thinking.

Im not sure taking an aggressive stance will help. Try and keep cool and dont listen to his crap. Decisions will be made easier with a clear head. Besides that it will probably drive your old man nuts if you keep calm and just say im leaving, had enough- see ya later. Set your self a "battle" strategy. As long as you have a place to sleep and can afford food your going to live. It might be tough for awhile but it can only get better.

As far as work is concerned- there are some crap jobs out there but maybe you might have to take one if it means moving on. Im from a rural area and general farm jobs have been pretty easy to get over the years (although it is a bit tougher at the moment), they dont give money away but its kept me alive so far.

I dont know what you credentials are so im just making a suggestion. Centrelink help people out too with getting work- especially if you tell them your situation.

Anyway good luck TB!

[shokwave2]

From my viewpoint, if a girl forces you to sell your collection, she is not worth it. She is supposed to like you for who you are not what she wants you to be.

Sorry should have further explained my comment. As Fungal Infection said, depends on why your spouse wants you to sell your collection. If it conflicts with time together or money issues, then it should be an option to sell. But if it's because she thinks you're immature or she wants more money spent on her, i'd put her as a "Buy It Now" option on eBay and live happily with your toys

[Ode to a Grasshopper]

From my viewpoint, if a girl forces you to sell your collection, she is not worth it. She is supposed to like you for who you are not what she wants you to be.

No no no, that's not how it goes at all. She's supposed to like you for what she can 'change' you into...