I think the way they are handling human deaths in TF fiction is fine. Showing graphic human deaths in Transformers fiction is childish and puerile.
As can reading about them: I couldn't finish that so-called novel "Hardwired" from a few years ago. It's generally a bad book but the humans-die-in-graphic-ways-so-you-know-this-is-grown-up stuff was the tipping point.