Yeah, everything about this still sounds totally wrong and from what you are saying, it seems that this relationship is one sided with you being the only one emotionally invested and her not interested in returning that affection unless it stays online which is fallacy.

When did she begun to act funny with her ignoring you and listening to her friend and whatnot? Was it after you announced that you were traveling over there to meet her in person? If that's the case then it is likely because she never expected to meet you and regarded you nothing more than an 'internet boyfriend' than a real one. She probably freaked at the thought of her internet 'relationship' coming into the real world because she doesn't actually care for it and then begun to panic by talking to her friend about 'this online guy she doesn't know' coming over and so forth which triggered all this 'He is a rapist!' response.

If she truly cared for you in the same way as you do for her - What the friend says would not matter because she would know you and be sure that the friend is wrong in what he/she says.

Sorry dude, but I see no good coming from this, only sorrow and disappointment. Just keep in mind that despite whatever road you choose, you are the one in the driver's seat not her or the friend - You can turn around at any time.