Need some Advice...

[Robzy]

I kinda agree with Digger, Kup & Hereticpoo... BE CAREFUL!!

I'm a pretty suspicious person myself, and this sounds a little sus to me! I worry about the whole "dual life" aspect. But I'm more concerned for your welfare... I don't mind being adventurous, but I always keep safe - especially when I travel! Secrecy when travelling is NOT A GOOD OPTION!

Just my !

[TheDirtyDigger]

I spoke to her today, she seemed a bit happier.

She didn't respond to any of my emails and was in a bit of a funny mood, but Girls just get like that sometimes right?

Anyways by the end of the convo she seemed happier, and said I was still welcome to come over.

I'm still thinking things over very carefully though, I kind of feel like Im putting all the energy into the relationship atm and she's unsure.

Zaul man, you gotta read the sage and worldly advice being handed out from the experienced lads at OTCA here. Everything about this sounds like a bad idea.
Worse part is, from your info and your responses it sounds like you're not thinking clearly at all and are completely clouded by emotion.
Emotion that isn't reciprocated at all.
She doesn't love you and in every likelihood, never will.
You are not going to get a return on the emotion you have already invested here so be smart and cut your losses and run.
Sure, keep her as an online friend that lives on the opposite side of the planet but this 'love' you are feeling for her is unwanted, unwarranted and just wrong.
Be smart.

[kup]

Yeah, everything about this still sounds totally wrong and from what you are saying, it seems that this relationship is one sided with you being the only one emotionally invested and her not interested in returning that affection unless it stays online which is fallacy.

When did she begun to act funny with her ignoring you and listening to her friend and whatnot? Was it after you announced that you were traveling over there to meet her in person? If that's the case then it is likely because she never expected to meet you and regarded you nothing more than an 'internet boyfriend' than a real one. She probably freaked at the thought of her internet 'relationship' coming into the real world because she doesn't actually care for it and then begun to panic by talking to her friend about 'this online guy she doesn't know' coming over and so forth which triggered all this 'He is a rapist!' response.

If she truly cared for you in the same way as you do for her - What the friend says would not matter because she would know you and be sure that the friend is wrong in what he/she says.

Sorry dude, but I see no good coming from this, only sorrow and disappointment. Just keep in mind that despite whatever road you choose, you are the one in the driver's seat not her or the friend - You can turn around at any time.

[GoktimusPrime]

I agree with TheDirtyDigger. If I were you I wouldn't waste my time with a woman flip-flopping around and undecided about whether or not to commit to a relationship with you.

I also agree with SkyShadow in that if you just want to go to Canada for the sake of going to Canada, then do it for that reason. Meeting up with this girl and starting a relationship with her should just be a secondary benefit - i.e. if it happens it happens, but if not no big deal.

That's pretty much how I met my wife. We initially communicated online then I travelled overseas for the primary purpose of wanting to travel to that country, but since I was there I met up with her and things went from there. Had things not turned out between us it would not have been a wasted trip because regardless of the outcome I still had a really good time travelling there. So if you want to go, go for the sake of seeing Canada, not for the sake of meeting this woman.

[d*r*j*]

When I was younger I was in a very similar situation. She was in america and I ended up not going, I don't regret it at all. Everyone is giving you advice with no real information, but read your own words;

What makes this so hard is she's the only girl Ive ever known that really likes me, and she's the only one Ive ever had strong feelings for, even though it is so long distance...

Surely if the only girl who you have ever felt liked by is on the computer... you need to meet more girls, improve your circumstances, be independant and grow into a man naturally. I don't mean this to sound condescending, but I'm 30 and was in the same place as you once.

[autobreadticon]

her friend could be a dungeon monster and i won't see get to hear from you for another 15 years

[Zaul]

Another update for everyone.

It seems she was in a funny mood, she had been doing 9 hour car trips across canada, some things were said and she is very sorry.

Tonight she logged on and gave me like a 2 hour voice chat and still wants me to visit, calling me her handsome aussie and wanting to take me to the movies ect.

She really is a good person, but she sometimes has these mood swings.. once a month.. *rolls eyes*.

Anyways I haven't made up my mind either way yet, but I want to extend my gratitude to the OCTA Community.

You all reached out in my time of need with worthy advice , and I'm truly honored to have such awesome friends.

Wherever I go , whether it be Canada or Somewhere in Aus I will always contribute here to the best of my ability and If I can ever help down with tracking some figures then Im in debt to you all.

[1AZRAEL1]

Could possibly be coz she was under alot of stress.

Hopefully it does work out for you dude.

At least you know that wherever you end up, you will always have people to talk to here

[mknell]

Good luck dude, either way Canada is an awesome country to visit

[Ode to a Grasshopper]

Hope you have a good holiday.