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only just saw this thread and think it is very cool to read everyones experiences. i am the primary carer for my two and a half year opd duaghter work fulltime also though wrk can be very understanding at times.
sorry forgot who posted it but i have found the good days and sometimes bad days really rings true and it is super easy to get frustrated but when they smile or do something funny or say i love you it is amazing how good that makes you feel.
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I have a 10 year old boy (not actually my son, my Gf's who i help with) who does nothing but play X-box and watch tv. I've tried to get him involved in other things but he just doesn't want to. He's taken a liking to my TF's so i showed him some of my comics and books but he refuses to read. He has a brain but doesn't want to use it. Are we seeing a pattern here?
What can i do to get him interested in other things and reading? I've seen where spending all you time on video games and tv gets you and i want so much more for him.
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Banning the digital age is the way to go and while you do that, what kind of games does he play on the xbox? Are we refering to shooting, puzzle, rpgs, etc?Originally Posted by LordCyrusOmega
You can substitute these with physical interest... ie. Shooting -> get a couple of nerf or buzzbee guns. Puzzle -> riddles or maybe try Lego Creationary (board game). RPGs -> story roleplay with dice (D&D style)
I too have a 10yr old and has limited console gaming to weekend only for a couple of hours strictly. He plays with his Legos, Transformers, Nerf, his 4yr old brother and rides his pushbike when he can't play on the consoles.
In terms of reading books, I let my 10 yr old pick the books HE wants to read and I just have to make sure there's at least 10 sentences in the book before buying them. A good place for books (or magazines or comics) is the local library, get a feel of what he picks out, see if it gets read.
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At least the younger kids aren't in school yet. But yeah I agree to this. my son doesn't want to go out and quite grumpy when he does because he can't play with his console. he always asks when are we gonna go home.
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That's an intelligent way to go.
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Yes it is, and he gets bonus time (an hour max.) on the consoles if he has done all his schoolwork by Saturday afternoon or completed certain milestones.
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Another suggestion is perhaps to use the games as a reward. For example, if he can play so many hours of sport (with satisfactory effort) and read so many pages of a book, then he can earn so many hours of gameplay. Maybe use a points system, e.g. reward him with so many points for every hour of sport played or pages of a book read.
You may need to confiscate the controllers or power cord and keep them hidden and only give him access to them when he has earnt enough points to play his games. Likewise any negative behaviour would result in points being deducted.
Yes, I see this every day. (-_-) So many kids with potential but too lazy to do anything about it. Likewise there are a lot of kids who aren't that bright, but they achieve a lot just through a lot of effort and hard work. I much prefer having hardworking students of average intelligence than lazy gifted/talented students.
But yeah, they say you can attract more ants with honey instead of vinegar - so try some kind of reward system. Let him know if he wants his privileges (and playing computer games is absolutely a privilege, not a right), then he has to earn them. Also teaches the value of working to get what you want. It also teaches that there are consequences for his actions - both positive and negative, and it's entirely up to him whether or not he wants the positive consequence (game access) or not. If he refuses to read or get active, don't get mad - just say something like, "If you can earn X points then we'll let you play your games, but if you don't then you can't. It's all up to you mate, I'm not gonna force you." --- by letting the child know that he actually has a choice it actually makes him feel empowered and in control of his destiny; which most kids respond to positively. (re: choice-control reality therapy)
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か。。。 可愛い！！！ OMG! She is adorable!!! My missus wants 2 kids... starting with a daughter... I'm personally not sure if I want children. I have a favourite saying... 'I love all kids, as long as their not mine.'Playing with PCC Huffer while wearing an Optimus Prime top...
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I think role modelling is heaps important. I'm personally trying to spend less time on the computer and get more active myself to become a better role model for my daughter. I've been reading to her since she was in-utero so I hope that will get her interested in reading.
But considering that your gf's son is already 10, perhaps you could find out what kinds of things he's interested in and get him reading stuff about that. There are a lot of books out there now based on video games, like:
Halo novels
World of Warcraft Novels
Warcraft manga (I read one once, it wasn't half bad)
If he shares some interest in Transformers with you maybe read some Transformer comics or books with him. And as clichéd as this may sound, the Harry Potter books are meant to be quite good. I've only ever read The Philosopher's Stone and I loved it (a lot better than the film). If he's interested in other forms of fantasy maybe read him stuff like The Lord of the Rings. I'm currently reading "Peter Pan and Wendy" (Japanese version) to my daughter atm.
Years ago I had a year 7 boy whose reading age was that of a Year 2 or 3 student. I knew that he really loved climbing (he did indoor climbing as a sport and he was sometimes busted by the cops for climbing public buildings, like the top of shopping centres); and he had zero interest in reading any of the prescribed English texts at school. So I suggested to him and his father that he should start reading about climbing, which he did. The next year his literacy results improved quite significantly.
I also think it's important to get kids interested in being physically active too. Aside from keeping fit, a lot of studies show that it also helps kids mentally; active kids are found to be more attentive and focused in class and tend to perform better academically. Activities that coordinate left and right sides are said to help with focusing and attention too. Some studies also show that active kids are less likely to suffer from depression and other mental health issues too.
Have you been able to find any kind of activity that he may be interested in? If he's interested in shooting games then maybe just run around the yard or park and play shootings with toy guns. <shrug>
I think the key is to find something that can engage the child's interest. Good luck.
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