I told my girlfriend I collect Transformers...

[Fungal Infection]

Haha Fungal you sound like a Canadian dude we read about a while back. Did you ever enter a TF trivia contest?

Hell no!! And unlike that butt pirate, I'd never brag about being a TF Trivia king!

[Kyle]

Hypothetical

Riddle me this;

Your well into the relationship, its serious.

She says "I don't want you to buy anymore TF's, its me or them"

Do you:

A) Stare at her blankly, then casually pick up your phone, call Kyle and say "Do you want to go TF shopping and then maybe a strip club"

or

B) Give up your TF's, Arc weld a shackle to your neck, and ask her to take you shopping for groceries.

Only the tough questions around here!

A. And that is my professional opinion!

Qualifications summary here: http://www.kells.com.au/index.pl?page=244

I would listen to the professionals' opinions. Remember if you go TF shopping (AND more importantly a strip club) don't forget me!

13 years! You sly old dog! Good work!

Reminds me of my cousin who used to "pick up" Year 11/12 girls. When the girls found out he was in fact still in Year 8 they didn't take it too well.

[Fungal Infection]

My wife (then girlfriend) had this conversation at the start of our relationship except the difference was she asked me, if I had to make a choice, would it be her or the car (I'm a super car nut). She wasn't actually threatening me just asking it as a hypothetical question. I basically said, "Are you happy at the moment? Are you asking me that question because I am neglecting you or are not giving you the same attention as the car? Do I treat you well?" She answered yes to all those questions and then I replied, "Why are you asking me to make a choice then?" I think as long as you treat her as well as if not better than your hobbies, then she shouldn't expect you to give up anything. And as long as she is happy with the relationship, then theres no need to ask that question either. She's hasn't asked me that question since that day, either about my car (which has since been sold anyway so I guess I answered her question) or my toy collecting hobbies so I guess she's happy (either that or she's planning something very sinister......)

Hypothetical

Riddle me this;

Your well into the relationship, its serious.

She says "I don't want you to buy anymore TF's, its me or them"

Do you:

A) Stare at her blankly, then casually pick up your phone, call Kyle and say "Do you want to go TF shopping and then maybe a strip club"

or

B) Give up your TF's, Arc weld a shackle to your neck, and ask her to take you shopping for groceries.

Only the tough questions around here!

[jacksplatt11]

Remember if you go TF shopping (AND more importantly a strip club) don't forget me!

Ya, when is the strip club meet and where is it going to be? Plenty of places in melb

[GoktimusPrime]

I mean ladies (or guys for that matter) can get picky about a whole of bunch of things. Budgeting so that we don't spend beyond our means may just be one issue. There could also be issues like (1) us spending more time on TFs (either through playing, toy hunting, eBaying, forums, etc) than with our partners; (2) us preferring a TF related activity than say something more 'partner' orientated like a walk in the park or a picnic; or (3) etc.

I think another major issue is that hobbies tend to take one's attention away from one's partner and if it adds to an unreasonable amount, it becomes unacceptable (to them). And I mean attention not just time- because you can be spending time with a person and yet have your attention focused on Transformers or talking only about Transformers. That in itself is also 'direct and detrimental' notwithstanding the budgeting and money spent issue.

Absolutely - I totally agree with that. This all goes back to previous discussions we've had about when does a hardcore hobby become an unhealthy obsession, and IMHO it's when you become so obsessed and immersed in your hobby that you sacrifice other elements of your life - in effect, you have a minimal (or non-existent) social-life, then that's when it becomes emotionally unhealthy.

Transformers is absolutely an obsession for me - no doubt's there... but at the same time I do like to maintain a social life with friends and with my spouse. All my friends know that I'm obsessed with Transformers and they're cool with it. (^_^)

Its a young Relationship, You're given an absolute Ultimatum, There's no compromise, you must change, it doesn't even have to be TF's, its something you love. A or B?

If it's not a very serious relationship and you're not that committed to the other person... then bugger 'em! Transformers all the way!

Disclaimer: I am not a qualified relationships counsellor.

[Hereticpoo]

If it's not a very serious relationship and you're not that committed to the other person... then bugger 'em! Transformers all the way!

Disclaimer: I am not a qualified relationships counsellor.

Thats the spirit laddy!

[The Scream Man]

Linda knew what she was getting into when she met me, but also expected Id grow out of it. The firt couple of years were rougher than now, but she has slowly and unhappily realised Ill collect toys my whole life.

It wouldnt be so bad if it stopped there, but i buy games and DVD's and comics a lot as well, so she basically hates hw much money i blow on stuff, when she wants to save for a house.

It also depends what I buy. She thinks Saint Seiya and macross are awesome, but isnt to into transformers (Though she likes Masterpiece Skywarp a lot, and doesnt mind the Alternators.). Superhero stuff can go weither way depending on the character.

[Golden Phoenix]

Hypothetical

Riddle me this;

Your well into the relationship, its serious.

She says "I don't want you to buy anymore TF's, its me or them"

Do you:

A) Stare at her blankly, then casually pick up your phone, call Kyle and say "Do you want to go TF shopping and then maybe a strip club"

or

B) Give up your TF's, Arc weld a shackle to your neck, and ask her to take you shopping for groceries.

Only the tough questions around here!

Mine asked me this as a hypothetical.
I told her, as harsh as it may have been, but I said, that they were a part of my life, they don't consume it, but my collecting is a hobby of mine and it is part of me.
If she didn't like that, I'd be happy to compromise, but I wouldn't get rid of it completely.

Ended up later compromising by agreeing to spend less, which was kind of being done anyway because I had to pay for the dates and typical boyfriend stuff...

[blackie]

mate dates are cheap, just take her to maccas and go to the movies, thats about all i do, ever, and ive been with my woman for 3 years now

still

i was with mine when i started, and if she saw how much i spent i think she would kill me, but i dont think she quite knows....

[Bartrim]

mate dates are cheap, just take her to maccas and go to the movies.

Wow. Do we have anaward for most romantic ozformer?