should i be angry??

[primatives]

Ok so I bought G1 Octane and G1 Autobot clones from ebay waited over a month for it didnt show up only to find out it was shipped to one of my gf's colleagues address because she used my account to buy something on behalf of him and forgot to change his address.

I find out that he has opened it and given it to his son. He is currently on holiday til next year. My girlfriend offered to rebuy it for me but man I am more pissed knowing that some little kid has my toy which from pictures looks in pretty good condition. If it was a junker then whatever. I am however REALLY anal about the condition of TF's I aquire. Just that from the pictures the clones look really new and was told joints tight on both and really annoyed cos the chrome condition looked on Octane was really good and made sure it was brand spanking new which could turn out to be a KO.

I don't play with my TF's and dont even transform them and if I do its once and are left on display. Just me knowing it is tight makes me happy and in good condition. Even though they will never be played with ever again.

So my gf feels really bad and I have tried not to bring it up or avoided talking about it to her just so I can calm down and think things over. I dont want my gf to buy me a new set cos i dont want her to spend money and just annoying that i went to all that trouble to find something good. I dont want to have to go thorugh it again.

So am I just being a loser having a cry over nothing? Anyone get really angry over some piece of plastic???

[Sky Shadow]

I think there are several factors here. It is completely wrong that this man should have given the toys to his son - he knew he hadn't bought them, and presumably he could have worked out that they were yours. It's also ridiculous that he needed to order something on an eBay account that was three people removed. Seriously, how hard is it to buy something on eBay? It's annoying that your address was changed on eBay - if you knew your girlfriend had been using it then I suspect you should have double-checked everything was right before you put the payment through, so in that case this isn't really her fault. As long as you gave your girlfriend permission to use the account, then I don't think she should be blamed for anything. If she did it without you knowing then this is a problem too and it means everyone carries part of the blame in this situation. Obviously worse things could happen, but it still sucks.

[Lint]

Yes you should be angry. Gifting something away that is not yours is wrong. In fact I would take this up with the gf's colleague when he gets back from holiday. It may be just some piece of plastic to him but it was really important to YOU.

Don't blame the gf though. It's the gf's colleague and your own fault that this happened.

[Tetsuwan Convoy]

I agree with Lint, be angry and the guy who gave the toy to his kid. And be angry with yourself for not checking the address when you put the payment through.

That's where the buck stops really. All this hassle could have been avoided if you had a look at the address. unless she did the transaction without your knowledge then its a bit different, unless you have an agreement that she can use your account. Still, I feel that GF is the least guilty party in this situation.

[Sharky]

i tend to agree it is not the gf's fault so it is not fair on her to blame her however, the colleague should of known that these items were not his and should of enquired about them if he knew the source or it was a mistake and a straight return to sender. were they addresed to you via his address or were they addressed to him if it was the first he should of know straight away and then not opened it,

a tricky situation for sure

[jaydisc]

My condolences. That is frustrating. It is that time of year where the father could have legitimately thought it was a gift for his son, but I might be playing a devil's advocate a bit too much.

I'd either ask for the specific toys you ordered (this isn't a retail purchase. You bought specific vintage kit. You don't want a replacement) or FFS, you want your money back.

[Hursticon]

I'm going to go against the grain here as I believe that your GF does actually carry a larger degree of fault, why?, if she asked to use your account and knew she had to change the address details then she should've had the common sense and decency to revert them back to their original state.
I've been brought up with the rule that if you borrow something, you put it back in the condition you found it and exactly where you found it.

Now, this 'colleague' needs a good dressing down because whilst it may be regarded to some as an oversight, what he did is akin to mail theft which is a Federal Offence - I'm not saying go out and have him charged but what he did is highly rude and just outright wrong, hell I'd ask him to reimburse me the full cost of the items.

Certainly a crap series of events, yeah it's Xmas so don't go doing any thing immediately or rash, maybe wait until the new year and then bring it to a head.

My 2 cents.

[heroic_decepticon]

I think there are several factors here. It is completely wrong that this man should have given the toys to his son - he knew he hadn't bought them, and presumably he could have worked out that they were yours. It's also ridiculous that he needed to order something on an eBay account that was three people removed.

+ 1 on that. My first thought was 'what the f**k's this guy's problem', pardon the french. It's a pretty big stretch of the imagination for him to think that a parcel which arrives with his name, without anything else inside like a card or something, was meant to be a present for his son?!?

In this situation, him, your gf and yourself all have to share the blame, but the biggest issue is this guy giving it to his son. It would really be no biggie if he'd kept the parcel, enquired who it belongs to and then handed it back to you. No damage done other than maybe the expense of meeting up and getting it back.

I don't know about you guys, but I'd lose it if someone gave my vintage TFs to a kid unrelated to me without my authority to do so. It's just a complete lack of common sense on this guy's part.

[gdmetro]

Were the items misb? or mib?

Even after taking into account that there was a mix-up between your gfs use of the account or you not checking the address of the account- The father is to blame for the majority if not all of this problem. You cannot gift something that is not yours to give- and there is no excuse for him to have taken the contents of the package and treated it as it was his own property when it clearly was not.

Considering the fact that he had used YOUR ebay account, in the colleague's position and situation there is no excuse as the reasonable action to take would have been to make a reasonable inquiry about the package, especially considering the contents of the package, who sent it and the reason for sending (i.e. was it a gift or ebay/online purchase or something else). I'm assuming the package was addressed to him otherwise he would not have grounds to even open it.

[After taking these actions it should have been clear to the colleague that the package was yours or your gfs (or atleast not his), and the right thing to do would be to give it back to its rightful owner- not give it to his son to open.]

And thinking its a gift to his son? Really? Ignoring the fact that it's a vintage toy, just looking at the sender (whom he most likely would not know). Would you consider it reasonable to accept a gift from someone you don't even know and not inquire about it before accepting it? and giving to your son nonetheless? (That would not be reasonable IMO).

Considering the situation theoretically and objectively- without consideration of real-world relationship between your gf and any consequences thus arising after, I would demand compensation from the guy in full for the amount you paid for it- although practically being able to enforce it is another thing.

[Only my opinions on the mattter].

And to answer your question- I would be angry if I were you, but would try to be more level-headed in dealing with the situation. I would of course, also try to enjoy the holidays since it's christmas.


Hope you do eventually sort this out- and merry christmas!

[primatives]

haha cool now i don't feel so bad for getting so worked up!! I'm a hothead when it comes to my vintage g1's!!!!

Well I can do now is wait and hope the toys come back in a decent condition and not loose as a goose when i get it back!!!

I will be extra cautious when I buy from my account now!! I did tell me gf to change the address back.